The strength and wisdom that time
And experience have given them.
Grandchildren bless their Grandparents
With a youthful vitality and innocence
That help them stay young at heart forever.
Together they create a chain of love
Linking the past with the future.
The chain may lengthen,
But it will never part...
~Author Unknown~
One of my biggest "mommy guilt" moment has to be moving my boys away from their Grandparents. It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made. Jason and I agonized over weeks whether moving was a good decision; we made the decision and then agonized more over whether we made the right decision. I can honestly say we made the right decision for our family. However I still feel pangs of guilt every now and again. The pangs get stronger when I am home visiting my parents and watch the boys play, cook, build and just talk with their grandparents.
I am very lucky that we didn't move out of the state so the boys get to hang out with their grandparents a few time a year. We have the ability to hop in the car and be home in 7 hours, to hang out for a weekend. Which unfortunately we don't do enough, due to T-Ball, Work, School, Birthday Parties, and anything else life throws at us.
We have spent this weekend visiting my family and taking a trip to Disneyland. I planned on being here for 3 days, but as I was getting everything ready to go Jaydon was so upset to be leaving. Jason and I decide we would stay one more day and see how the boys acted. If they were good we would possibly stay longer (The boys and I, Jason had to get back to work) After a perfect day, I still wanted to head home, but my heart was breaking for Jaydon - he was just being so good - I told him the news, and I could tell he was really upset, but he acted like such a mature little man. So I decided I would stay at least another day for him. He was so happy, and all he wanted to do was hang out with Papa. I know I made the right choice this time to stay a little longer (even though I really want to get home)
This weekend, I realized more then ever the boys need their grandparents around more. They enjoy the time with them. They enjoy puttering around the house building trellises and going for ice cream. They enjoy movie nights (every night) upstairs in the movie room. Most of all they enjoy the time with their Grandparents. They enjoy the love and the patience (that most time I don't have for them) As I received a big pang of guilt while I was sitting on the bed telling Jaydon we had to go home, I realized that a few more days are probably good for the boys (even though Bryce opted to go home with Dad) and because of that pang, Jaydon got what he wanted a few more moments of Papa time, a few more days to putter around and make everlasting memories with one of the most important people in his life.
I would give anything to have my grandmothers back to share the important things with. To see my boys grow, to experience the highs and lows life throws my way, and to be a good source of wisdom. So instead of rushing home to get back to my regularly scheduled life, I will let Jaydon appreciate the time he has so he will feel a Grandparents Love a little stronger.
What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies. ~Rudolph Giuliani
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